Graduate school is one of those massive life decisions—one that can feel a bit like staring out the window on a long train ride, watching the same trees pass by over and over while you wonder, “Am I really on the right track?” (Trust me, Finland’s trees are mesmerizing, but they don’t hold all the answers.) Choosing a grad program isn’t just about selecting a school; it’s about figuring out where you’re going to invest years of your life, energy, and brainpower.
Both Guy and I have been through this process, and we’ve spent years advising students who are trying to figure it out for themselves. So, here’s what we wish we’d known back then—and what we hope can help you now.
1. Don’t Underestimate the Power of Funding
Let’s just put it out there: funding is everything. If you’re thinking about going full-time, one of the first questions you need to ask is, “Can I actually afford this?” And we’re not just talking about tuition. Can you live in this place for the next 4-6 years without taking on soul-crushing debt? Guy and I can’t stress this enough: If they don’t offer you money, you might want to reconsider. The best programs invest in their students, and if they aren’t willing to make that investment, you need to ask yourself why.
2. Pick a Program That Lets You Be You
This isn’t about fitting yourself into the mold of what the school wants—it’s about finding a place that allows you to grow, change, and explore. Neither of us ended up where we thought we would when we started grad school, and that’s okay. In fact, it’s great. The right program will give you the flexibility to pivot, explore new ideas, and figure out what kind of academic (or non-academic) career you want. If you feel boxed in from the start, it’s probably not the right fit.
3. Big Fish, Small Pond vs. Small Fish, Big Pond
Guy likes to talk about this idea of being a big fish in a small pond versus a small fish in a big pond. You’ll have to decide which environment works best for you. At a smaller school, you might have more opportunities to take the lead on projects, teach, or collaborate with faculty. But at a larger, more prestigious school, you might find yourself competing for those opportunities with 25 other PhD students in your department. There are advantages and disadvantages to both, so think about what kind of environment will help you thrive.
4. Life Happens—Plan for It
When I (Nick) was deciding on grad school, I was navigating some major life changes (spoiler alert: they were chaotic). The key takeaway? Grad school isn’t just about the academics; it’s about how the program will fit into your life. Can you see yourself living in this city for 4-6 years? Does the cost of living make sense? Do you have the support system you need to make it work? These questions matter just as much as who your advisor will be.
5. Visit, Talk, Listen—Then Decide
One of the most important things we did when deciding on programs was actually visiting the schools we were interested in. And yes, talking to current grad students is a must. Pro tip: If the grad students start crying while telling you about their program, maybe that’s a red flag. Seriously though, get a feel for the culture. Make sure you have both formal and informal conversations with students and faculty. The right program should feel like a place where you can succeed—not just survive.
6. Think Long-Term: What’s the ROI?
At the end of the day, grad school is an investment in your future, and it’s important to think about the return you’ll get on that investment. What’s your endgame? Do you want to be a professor? Work in the non-profit sector? Transition into the corporate world? Your grad program should be setting you up for success in whatever path you choose. And the reality is, debt can limit your options. So make sure you’re not just thinking about what the program will cost, but what it will allow you to do afterward.
So, What’s Next?
If you’re thinking about grad school, now’s the time to start doing your research, talking to people, and getting realistic about what you want. Grad school isn’t for the faint of heart, but it can be one of the most rewarding experiences of your life if you choose the right program. And don’t forget—this isn’t a decision you have to make alone. Reach out, ask questions, and take the leap when you’re ready.